My Partner Won’t Go To Therapy…now what?

Go by yourself.  Seriously.

You can only control you.  So going to individual therapy to understand your own patterns, identify your needs, and learn ways to advocate for yourself in a healthy manner is going help you move differently in your relationship.

Relationships require two people to make a dynamic.  If you shift your behavior, it’s bound to impact the other person.  Your partner will either shift to keep up…or they won’t.  Individual therapy can also help you accept if your partner is unchanging.

Areas we’ll work on:

Acceptance

What do you need to let go of and what do you need to make space for in order for the relationship to work, without struggle?  This often means learning skills to tolerate the pain that shows up when your partner refuses to attend therapy.

Attachment

How did your nervous system get shaped by caregivers?  What does safety look like in your relationship and how do you respond when you feel insecure?  Developing insight in these areas allows you to respond differently.

Self-advocacy & Boundaries

Do you know what you want or have you defaulted to your partner’s needs?  Can you say no without fear of consequence?  Do you struggle to make time for you?  Gaining the ability to speak up and recognize what you need not only benefits you, but it allows your significant other to know you more deeply.

Regulation Skills

Do you keep busy to avoid acknowledging your unhappiness?  Is your mind racing with all the tasks of the day?  Are you snapping at your spouse or shutting down completely?  Learning how to recognize what’s happening physiologically and then implementing the effective tool to regulate is key to feeling heard, communicating effectively, and deepening your relationship.

These are just a few of the many areas that individual therapy can focus on.

Individual therapy can help you build the relationship you deserve, starting with yourself.